{"id":1744,"date":"2025-03-12T10:41:26","date_gmt":"2025-03-12T11:41:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.isshicare.com\/?p=1744"},"modified":"2025-03-13T18:34:52","modified_gmt":"2025-03-13T18:34:52","slug":"i-took-a-holiday-without-my-husband-and-children-every-mum-should","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.isshicare.com\/index.php\/2025\/03\/12\/i-took-a-holiday-without-my-husband-and-children-every-mum-should\/","title":{"rendered":"I took a holiday without my husband and children \u2013 every mum should"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Like most parents<\/a> – including Frankie Bridge – my life\u00a0is hectic (Picture: Wiktor Szymanowicz\/Future Publishing via Getty Images)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

I\u2019m not surprised that Frankie Bridge<\/a> has been called \u2018selfish\u2019 and \u2018the worst parent\u2019 for going on holiday without her kids and husband. <\/p>\n

Last year, I booked myself into a Travelodge overnight for a break from family life and was mum-shamed <\/a>by strangers online.<\/p>\n

Other parents told me I was a bad mum and asked why I\u2019d had kids in the first place if I needed to escape them. <\/p>\n

But like Frankie, who jetted off last month to Dubai with a friend \u2013 which is admittedly a bit more glam than my night in a budget hotel \u2013 I think that having some time to myself only makes me a better mum<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Lying on a giant double bed, I spent hours watching Netflix<\/a> on my laptop, eating snacks, reading my book and best of all: enjoying the silence. <\/p>\n

It was a kid-free solo holiday<\/a>, which meant no demands, no questions about what\u2019s for dinner, no arguments to break up and no small people interrupting my space on the bed to try and snuggle in \u2013 pure bliss. <\/p>\n

This was a trip just for me\u2026 20 minutes from home at my local Travelodge, costing \u00a339. <\/p>\n

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I\u00a0really<\/em>\u00a0miss personal space (Picture: Alison Perry)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Like most parents<\/a> – including Frankie Bridge – my life is hectic, juggling my business, writing, and looking after three children. <\/p>\n

My 13-year-old needs ferrying to her many dance classes and when I\u2019m not breaking up squabbles between my five-year-old twins, I\u2019m doing the school run, helping them with homework or watching them perform \u2018a show\u2019 in the living room.  <\/p>\n

As any mum or dad will tell you, if small kids could Velcro themselves to you, they would. Don\u2019t get me wrong, I love their cuddles on the sofa after work.<\/p>\n

But I also really<\/em> miss personal space.  <\/p>\n

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Frankie jetted off to Dubai last month (Picture: Wiktor Szymanowicz\/Future Publishing via Getty Images)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Simple things like being able to go to the loo alone. Not being asked, ‘Where are you going? Can I come?’ every time I dare to move from my position on the sofa, watching Bluey<\/a>, to make a cup of tea. <\/p>\n

It can leave me feeling suffocated.  <\/p>\n

And that has a knock on effect. It means that rather than cherishing the time I\u2019m spending with my kids, marvelling at how incredible these small humans are, I start to plot ways to create some space between us. <\/p>\n

Suddenly, scrubbing the bathroom and tidying the kitchen become \u2018essential\u2019 tasks that I tell them Mummy must do right now. <\/p>\n

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No small people interrupting my space on the bed to try and snuggle in (Picture: Alison Perry)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n
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People asked whether my husband\u00a0minds \u2013 he\u2019s the one who gave me the idea (Picture: Alison Perry)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

I get snappy with them and act a bit like a petulant child who just wants to sit down and finish my coffee, rather than get the Play -Doh and paint out at 6am.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s when I know I need a break. <\/p>\n

And that\u2019s why I booked into a hotel. <\/p>\n

People have asked whether my husband minds, which makes me laugh \u2013 he\u2019s the one who gave me the idea!<\/p>\n

Two years ago, Mark was a stay-at-home dad and needed a break from the kids, so he booked himself into a hotel. At the time, I was more than happy to send him off for a night away; I knew he needed it and that he’d come back feeling fresh and ready to parent.<\/p>\n

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Walking back through my front door\u00a0at home, I felt like I could breathe again (Picture: Alison Perry)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Going slightly further afield, he got a bargain room in west London and spent the afternoon watching Formula 1<\/a> in peace.  <\/p>\n

He came back feeling like a new man, so I decided to follow his lead, downloading some episodes of Friends<\/a> and Gossip Girl<\/a> on Netflix and packing a small overnight bag with home comforts: my favourite mug, a posh scented candle, my best pyjamas, relaxing tea, snacks and my book<\/p>\n

Rather than viewing these nights away as a luxury, Mark and I think they\u2019re essential mental health<\/a> maintenance. <\/p>\n

According to the latest NHS figures, a record number of women are receiving perinatal mental health support and one in five women have a mental health condition.<\/p>\n

Taking a break from the physically and mentally demanding job of motherhood is a brilliant way of recharging the battery, allowing us to get stuck back into the job when we\u2019re back at home.<\/p>\n

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It was such a treat to be able to sleep in (Picture: Alison Perry)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

And so checking in at the front desk, I was giddy with excitement, if a little embarrassed that the hotel staff could check my address and clock I lived so locally. <\/p>\n

It was such a treat to be able to sleep in, rather than my usual morning routine of being woken by the hollering of my twins at 5.30am. <\/p>\n

Walking back through my front door at home, I felt like I could breathe again. I was looking forward to seeing my kids rather than wishing I could be somewhere else. <\/p>\n

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Comment now<\/title><span class=\"metro-comment-cta__text\">Have you ever taken a mini break close to home just to get some peace?<\/span><\/span><a class=\"metro-comment-cta__button\" href=\"#metro-comments-container\">Comment Now<\/a><\/div>\n<\/section>\n<p>Putting down my overnight bag at the foot of our stairs, my two youngest children launched themselves at me for cuddles. ‘How was your holiday, Mum?’ one of them asked me.  <\/p>\n<p>I told her it was the best. And it was. <\/p>\n<p>That’s why I’m sorry to read that Frankie Bridge received such backlash to her own holiday. <\/p>\n<p>‘They didn\u2019t hurt,’ Frankie said about the comments left on her social media posts, ‘but it just annoyed me that we are still, in 2025, making women feel bad for putting themselves first.’<\/p>\n<p>Frankie is right, of course, and how often do we see dads going on golfing trips with friends, leaving their family at home, with zero criticism being aimed at them? <\/p>\n<p>How is it possible that we still view a mum\u2019s place as being in the home, 24\/7, despite everything we know about looking after our mental health?<\/p>\n<p>I have no regrets about my solo holiday from family life. 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